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#1108 Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It
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#1108 Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It

******Support the channel****** Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thedissenter PayPal: paypal.me/thedissenter PayPal Subscription 1 Dollar: https://tinyurl.com/yb3acuuy PayPal Subscription 3 Dollars: https://tinyurl.com/ybn6bg9l PayPal Subscription 5 Dollars: https://tinyurl.com/ycmr9gpz PayPal Subscription 10 Dollars: https://tinyurl.com/y9r3fc9m PayPal Subscription 20 Dollars: https://tinyurl.com/y95uvkao ******Follow me on****** Website: https://www.thedissenter.net/ The Dissenter Goodreads list: https://shorturl.at/7BMoB Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedissenteryt/ Twitter: https://x.com/TheDissenterYT Podcast: http://bit.ly/3FeSNqb This show is sponsored by Enlites, Learning & Development done differently. Check the website here: http://enlites.com/ RECORDED ON MAY 22nd 2025. Dr. Laurie Mintz is an Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality. She is the author of two books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It (HarperOne, 2017), and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship (Adams Media, 2009). In this episode, we focus on Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap between men and women, cultural influences, how porn can influence it, the importance of sex education, and the importance of foreplay and communication during sex. We discuss whether penis size matters, the different ways women can achieve orgasm, how men and women feel about hookup sex, and the evolutionary origins of the female orgasm. Finally, we talk about what women can do to improve their own pleasure, and what men can do to improve the sexual experiences of their partners. Time Links: 00:00 Intro 00:33 The premise of the book 03:01 The orgasm gap 07:11 What influence does porn have? 10:56 The traits of sexual partners 12:44 Sex education 15:00 The importance of foreplay and communication 19:54 Does penis size matter? 21:53 The different ways women can achieve orgasm 24:12 Hookup sex 25:35 The evolution of the female orgasm 30:02 What can women do to improve their own pleasure? 31:37 What can men do to improve the sexual experiences of their partners? 33:30 Follow Dr. Mintz’s work! -- Follow Dr. Mintz’s work: Faculty page: https://tinyurl.com/42y5xhwb Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Becoming Cliterate: https://tinyurl.com/6mwhetek -- A HUGE THANK YOU TO MY PATRONS/SUPPORTERS: PER HELGE LARSEN, JERRY MULLER, BERNARDO SEIXAS, ADAM KESSEL, MATTHEW WHITINGBIRD, ARNAUD WOLFF, TIM HOLLOSY, HENRIK AHLENIUS, FILIP FORS CONNOLLY, ROBERT WINDHAGER, RUI INACIO, ZOOP, MARCO NEVES, COLIN HOLBROOK, PHIL KAVANAGH, SAMUEL ANDREEFF, FRANCIS FORDE, TIAGO NUNES, FERGAL CUSSEN, HAL HERZOG, NUNO MACHADO, JONATHAN LEIBRANT, JOÃO LINHARES, STANTON T, SAMUEL CORREA, ERIK HAINES, MARK SMITH, JOÃO EIRA, TOM HUMMEL, SARDUS FRANCE, DAVID SLOAN WILSON, YACILA DEZA-ARAUJO, ROMAIN ROCH, DIEGO LONDOÑO CORREA, YANICK PUNTER, CHARLOTTE BLEASE, NICOLE BARBARO, ADAM HUNT, PAWEL OSTASZEWSKI, NELLEKE BAK, GUY MADISON, GARY G HELLMANN, SAIMA AFZAL, ADRIAN JAEGGI, PAULO TOLENTINO, JOÃO BARBOSA, JULIAN PRICE, HEDIN BRØNNER, DOUGLAS FRY, FRANCA BORTOLOTTI, GABRIEL PONS CORTÈS, URSULA LITZCKE, SCOTT, ZACHARY FISH, TIM DUFFY, SUNNY SMITH, JON WISMAN, WILLIAM BUCKNER, PAUL-GEORGE ARNAUD, LUKE GLOWACKI, GEORGIOS THEOPHANOUS, CHRIS WILLIAMSON, PETER WOLOSZYN, DAVID WILLIAMS, DIOGO COSTA, ALEX CHAU, AMAURI MARTÍNEZ, CORALIE CHEVALLIER, BANGALORE ATHEISTS, LARRY D. LEE JR., OLD HERRINGBONE, MICHAEL BAILEY, DAN SPERBER, ROBERT GRESSIS, JEFF MCMAHAN, JAKE ZUEHL, BARNABAS RADICS, MARK CAMPBELL, TOMAS DAUBNER, LUKE NISSEN, KIMBERLY JOHNSON, JESSICA NOWICKI, LINDA BRANDIN, VALENTIN STEINMANN, ALEXANDER HUBBARD, BR, JONAS HERTNER, URSULA GOODENOUGH, DAVID PINSOF, SEAN NELSON, MIKE LAVIGNE, JOS KNECHT, LUCY, MANVIR SINGH, PETRA WEIMANN, CAROLA FEEST, MAURO JÚNIOR, 航 豊川, TONY BARRETT, NIKOLAI VISHNEVSKY, STEVEN GANGESTAD, TED FARRIS, ROBINROSWELL, KEITH RICHARDSON, HUGO B., JAMES, AND JORDAN MANSFIELD! A SPECIAL THANKS TO MY PRODUCERS, YZAR WEHBE, JIM FRANK, ŁUKASZ STAFINIAK, TOM VANEGDOM, BERNARD HUGUENEY, CURTIS DIXON, BENEDIKT MUELLER, THOMAS TRUMBLE, KATHRINE AND PATRICK TOBIN, JONCARLO MONTENEGRO, NICK GOLDEN, CHRISTINE GLASS, IGOR NIKIFOROVSKI, AND PER KRAULIS! AND TO MY EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS, MATTHEW LAVENDER, SERGIU CODREANU, ROSEY, AND GREGORY HASTINGS! #TheDissenter #LaurieMintz #Psychology
Pleasure, Orgasm Equality, and Empowerment with Dr Laurie Mintz
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Pleasure, Orgasm Equality, and Empowerment with Dr Laurie Mintz

I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr Laurie Mintz, a sex therapist, professor, and author of Becoming Cliterate. We explored the cultural narratives surrounding female pleasure, the "orgasm gap," and practical ways to empower women to embrace their sexuality. Episode Summary Dr Laurie Mintz shared how her experience teaching human sexuality at the University of Florida revealed a shocking lack of knowledge about female anatomy and pleasure. This inspired her to write Becoming Cliterate and help women close the "orgasm gap." We covered loads of ground in this episode, including: The cultural myths and taboos that hold women back from embracing pleasure. Why understanding your anatomy is so important for empowerment. The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and how to reignite intimacy. Practical ways to prioritise pleasure and create a fulfilling sex life. This conversation is packed with humour, actionable advice, and relatable insights for anyone looking to reconnect with themselves and their relationships. Key Takeaways You're Not Broken: Struggling with desire or orgasms is common and can be addressed with the right tools and mindset. Responsive Desire: You don’t need to wait to feel "in the mood" - desire often follows arousal. Prioritise Pleasure: Schedule time for intimacy and create an environment that feels good for you. Resources & Links Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex by Dr Laurie Mintz Connect with Dr Laurie: www.drlauriemintz.com Follow Dr Laurie on Instagram and Facebook: @DrLaurieMintz Find out more about Juliette Karaman here: https://feelfullyyou.com Follow Juliette on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/juliettekaraman/ Follow Juliette on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/juliette.karamanvanschaardenburg Don't forget to Rate and leave a review so more people can tune in and the ripple effect spreads further.
🎙️ The Clitoris Is Not Optional | Featuring Dr. Laurie Mintz
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🎙️ The Clitoris Is Not Optional | Featuring Dr. Laurie Mintz

You can’t talk about sexual health without talking about the clitoris—yet somehow, we still do. In this powerful episode of TwoX Labs, Dr. Erika Miley sits down with world-renowned sex therapist, researcher, and author Dr. Laurie Mintz (Becoming Cliterate) to talk about why cis-women’s pleasure is still being ignored, and what therapists and healthcare providers must do to change that. 💥 This episode is for anyone who’s tired of the shame, silence, and bad sex ed. Let’s rewrite the narrative. 💡 What You’ll Learn: ✅ The full structure and purpose of the clitoris (yes, it’s more than just a “button”) ✅ Why the pleasure gap still exists in 2025 ✅ How sexual shame is reinforced by culture, providers, and misinformation ✅ What therapists and educators can do to center pleasure in practice ✅ How to talk about sex with clients—without discomfort or awkwardness 🎧 This conversation is smart, accessible, and a must-watch for therapists, sex educators, and anyone who cares about closing the pleasure gap. 📍 Follow @twoxlabs on Instagram, FB, and YouTube 🌐 More CEU content and expert episodes at www.twoxlabs.org 📧 Contact: twoxlabs@gmail.com Dr. Laurie's info: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ 💜 Your pleasure matters. Your clients’ pleasure matters. Let’s talk about it. #BecomingCliterate #ClitorisEducation #SexTherapy #PleasureIsHealth #TwoXLabs #SexualWellness #SexEd #TherapistEducation #DrLaurieMintz #continuingeducation #therapist
Keeping Intimacy Alive in Menopause: A Conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz
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Keeping Intimacy Alive in Menopause: A Conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz

Menopause changes intimacy—physically, emotionally, and in ways you might not expect. The connection you once had with your partner may feel different, conversations don’t flow as easily, and you may even wonder if things will ever feel the same again. But intimacy doesn’t have to disappear—it just needs to evolve. In this episode of Real Insights, Holly Osterman sits down with @drlauriemintz a licensed psychologist and author of the book, “A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex,” to explore how menopause impacts intimacy. And, more importantly, what women can do to bring back connection, confidence, and closeness. They discuss why intimacy shifts in midlife, how to navigate those changes, and how to start the conversation with your partner in a way that actually works. And you’ll also find out: o Why menopause changes intimacy—and how to adapt o How to rebuild emotional connection when things feel distant o What to do when you don’t feel like yourself anymore o How to move past the fear of starting the conversation o Practical ways to reignite intimacy in midlife Intimacy after menopause isn’t just about sex. It’s about feeling seen, valued, and connected—both with yourself and with your partner. Dr. Mintz shares science-backed insights and practical strategies to help women embrace this new stage with confidence. This conversation is for every woman who has ever wondered: Can we get that spark back? Spoiler alert: Yes, you can. And it starts with small, intentional steps. Want to connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz? Find her here: Her Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/@drlauriemintz 00:00 Introduction 00:50 Meet Dr. Laurie Mintz 01:50 From Psychologist to Sex Therapist 03:43 Emotional Distance in Relationships 05:37 Reconnecting with Your Partner 07:39 Effective Communication Strategies 11:19 Life Shifts and Intimacy 12:19 Handling Built-Up Resentments 15:28 Activities to Rebuild Intimacy 23:05 The Importance of Self-Care 27:11 Hormone Therapy and Menopause 32:26 Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz #intimacy #sexandmenopause #drlauriemintz ___ Join the Conversation at Empart At Empart, we're starting a new conversation about menopause and midlife. Founded by Holly Osterman, our platform offers a space for women to ask questions, tell their stories, and share their wisdom. Join our free community today at https://www.joinempart.com. Empart: Real Stories. Real Wisdom. Real Menopause. Holly's book brings together the collective wisdom of the old Menopause ChitChat community, now reborn as Empart. Raw, relatable, and packed with practical insights, it's a must-read for anyone navigating menopause and feeling a little lost. Available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle formats: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CK3VSS6Z Important Note: The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider to discuss your unique symptoms and treatment options.
The Truth About Making Her Come | female orgasm tips & relationship advice
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The Truth About Making Her Come | female orgasm tips & relationship advice

What your partner really wants in bed tonight. The truth about making her come, deepening connection, and giving her the pleasure she deserves. #SexualWellness #EmotionalConnection #thevibrantcouple Did you know 96% of women say external stimulation—not penetration—is the most reliable way to orgasm? Most men truly want to satisfy their partners, but many are misinformed by unrealistic portrayals in porn and haven’t learned from the real experts—women themselves. 🎙️ In This Video Join me in this uplifting and real conversation with Dr. Laurie Mintz, a renowned sex therapist and author of Becoming Cliterate, as we unpack: ✅ What it means to be a sexually satisfied woman ✅ Why nice guys fear asking about their performance ✅ How faking orgasms causes long-term damage ✅ The truth about clitoral stimulation and real connection ✅ Why porn has misled both men and women ✅ How to talk about sex before you're in bed ✅ Why sex is more than just penetration ✅ What “good enough sex” actually looks like This isn’t just sex education—it’s about confidence, closeness, and becoming the kind of lover she’ll never forget. The Truth About Making Her Come | female orgasm tips & relationship advice. 🧠 Key Message “To truly satisfy a woman, you have to unlearn what culture taught us—and listen to her.” 👩‍⚕️ Meet Dr. Laurie Mintz 🌐 Website: www.drlauriemintz.com 📘 Book: Becoming Cliterate on Amazon 📸 Instagram: @drlauriemintz ❤️ Connect with Us 🔗 More from Happy Couples Play Together: happycouplesplaytogether.com 📬 Contact: valdo@happycouplesplaytogether.com ⏱️ Time Stamps 00:00 Introducing Dr. Laurie Mintz 00:20 What is a sexually satisfied woman? 02:13 Men really care about pleasing their woman 04:45 Becoming Cliterate 06:47 Learning from women 08:19 Why porn gives the wrong impression 08:54 Why men fear asking about performance 09:43 Talking about sex outside of the bedroom 11:04 The problem with faking orgasms 12:10 Calling in vs. calling out 13:01 Paying attention to the vulva 14:40 Unlearning cultural myths 17:39 Talking about non-satisfying sex 18:30 What is “good enough” sex? 19:07 Why hookups rarely lead to orgasm 20:59 Sex as a full experience 22:51 Why penetration isn’t enough 🎨 Credit Artwork behind Valdo Lallemand by Frank Stella and Ellsworth Kelly. Final Thoughts We wish you love, joy, and playfulness in all parts of your relationship. Like, comment, and share this video if you're ready to become Cliterate. 💬
Laurie Mintz, Ph.D.: Sexuality, Mindfulness & The Orgasm Gap
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Laurie Mintz, Ph.D.: Sexuality, Mindfulness & The Orgasm Gap

Sexuality is at the heart of Dr. Laurie Mintz’s conversation with James Schmachtenberger, CEO of Qualia Life Sciences. They dive into the intricacies of sexual education and communication, highlighting how sexuality influences both personal pleasure and broader societal shifts, particularly in fostering orgasm equality. A critical takeaway is the importance of clitoral stimulation for female orgasm. Dr. Mintz shares that “only 4 to 18% of women orgasm from penetration alone,” underscoring the need to understand the clitoris' role in female pleasure. Mindfulness is another essential aspect of enhancing sexuality. Being fully present in one’s body can significantly improve sexual experiences. Practices like yoga and focusing on bodily sensations during intimacy elevate pleasure. Open communication about sexuality is vital for satisfying relationships. Dr. Mintz advocates for real-time communication during sex, as well as “kitchen table talks” to discuss preferences outside the bedroom. Through better sexual education, starting at a young age, we can bridge the orgasm gap and create healthier, more equitable sexual relationships. Dr. Mintz’s insights push us to rethink how we approach sex and pleasure, both for personal fulfillment and societal change. Connect with Qualia Life: Sponsored by Qualia Magnesium+: https://qualialife.com/magnesium. Use code magnesium when you shop Qualia Magnesium+ for an additional 15% off your order. Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/qualialife/. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/qualialife. Email: support@qualialife.com.com. Connect with Dr. Laurie Mintz: https://www.instagram.com/drlauriemintz https://www.facebook.com/DrLaurieMintz/ https://x.com/drlauriemintz https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-mintz-a3972615 Timestamps: 0:00 Mindfulness and Yoga Enhance Sexual Well-Being and Orgasms 2:40 Bridging the Orgasm Gap Through Education and Awareness 6:23 Understanding and Addressing the Orgasm Gap in Sexual Encounters 9:25 Understanding Female Orgasm and Clitoral Stimulation 12:45 Understanding Women's Orgasm: Cultural Myths and Scientific Insights 20:42 The Impact of Sex Education on Sexual Violence and Pleasure 25:33 Join Qualia's Beta Program to Shape Future Health Products 26:16 The Impact of Porn Literacy and Repression on Sexual Behavior 30:54 Mindfulness and Embodiment Enhance Sexual Experiences 36:04 Prioritizing Sexuality for Health and Relationship Benefits 40:36 Closing the Orgasm Gap Through Communication and Self-Discovery
Becoming Cliterate: Redefining Sexual Satisfaction in Midlife with Dr. Lori Mintz
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Becoming Cliterate: Redefining Sexual Satisfaction in Midlife with Dr. Lori Mintz

70% of women have faked satisfaction - it's time to stop. Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of "Becoming Cliterate," reveals groundbreaking research about pleasure after 50 and shares practical tools to enhance intimate satisfaction in midlife and beyond. → Did you know the best pleasure starts at age 50? → Learn why hormone treatments matter for vaginal health → Discover how to communicate your needs effectively → Master science-backed techniques for better satisfaction → Build confidence in your changing body 🎁 FREE GIFT: Download the Pleasure Upgrade Bundle ➡️ https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift CHAPTERS: 00:00 Why Most Women Fake Pleasure 04:58 Science Proves Satisfaction Improves With Age 11:32 The Truth About External Stimulation 15:20 How to Build Body Confidence 20:29 Understanding Your Body's Timing 30:09 Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire 34:00 Having The Talk With Your Partner 41:29 Pleasure as Your Birthright ABOUT DR. LAURIE MINTZ: Dr. Mintz is a renowned psychologist, professor, and author dedicated to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, and satisfying lives. Her groundbreaking book "Becoming Cliterate" has empowered thousands of women to enhance their intimate lives, backed by scientific research. ABOUT PLEASURE IN THE PAUSE: Join me, Gabriella Espinosa, as I guide midlife women to connect with their bodies, pleasure, and power through perimenopause, menopause, and beyond. As a Women's Health and Sexual Wellness Coach, I combine evidence-based research with Eastern wisdom to help you access the pleasure that is your birthright. CONNECT WITH DR. LAURIE MINTZ: Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0062664557/ About Gabriella Espinosa: I'm a women's health and sexuality coach dedicated to inspiring midlife women to feel more connected to their bodies, pleasure, and power through perimenopause, menopause, and beyond. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment! Get Your Free Pleasure Upgrade Bundle! → ♥️ https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/gift (7-Day Pleasure Body Journal + Guided Visualization + Pleasure Checklist) More helpful resources: → All Episodes: https://www.pleasureinthepause.com → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabriellaespinosa #PleasureInThePause #WomensHealth #Menopause #FemaleWellness #MidlifePleasure #WomensWellness #ClitoralHealth #SexualHealth #MenopauseSupport #WomensEmpowerment TAGS: female pleasure, menopause, midlife wellness, women's health, sexual wellness, pleasure after 50, hormone health, body confidence, intimate health, relationship advice, female sexuality, sexual education, women's empowerment, vulval health, mindfulness, pleasure practices
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