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Selected posts from Psychology Today


Sexual Revolution | Orgasm Gap | How to Pleasure a Woman
The orgasm gap: Picking up where the sexual revolution left off by focusing on how to pleasure a woman At the core of the 1960s sexual...
Jan 15, 20194 min read


It’s Time for the New Sexual Revolution of Female Pleasure Equality
You’ve probably heard of the “sexual revolution” but perhaps you don’t know precisely what spurred this revolution or what it entailed....
Dec 26, 20183 min read


Mindful Sex Is Mind Blowing Sex
Have you ever evaluated yourself, or had your mind wander, in the middle of a sexual encounter? Most people have! Psychologists call this...
Nov 21, 20185 min read


Close The Disconnect Between Women’s Self and Partner Pleasure
We have an orgasm gap. Cis-gender heterosexual women are having fewer orgasms than are cis-gender heterosexual men. As one striking...
Oct 3, 20184 min read


Dear Young Adult Women: What You Can Learn from Grace & Aziz
Here’s some advice to empower you sexually in an often toxic sexual culture. Dear Young Adult Women Who Have Sex With Men, By now, you’ve...
Aug 30, 20187 min read


A Letter to Young Adult Men: What You Can Learn from Ansari
Here is a list of seven simple tips to help you set a higher standard for sex Dear Young Adult Men Who Have Sex With Women, Unless you’ve...
Jul 25, 20187 min read


How Many Times a Week Is It Healthy to Have Sex?
First we have to understand the terms healthy and sex. When teach my undergraduate-level course on Human Sexuality, I ask the students to...
Jun 14, 20184 min read


Female Orgasm: Time To Stop Shoulding on Ourselves
When it comes to orgasms, there is no one right way. At the end of the first day of my undergraduate Psychology of Human Sexuality class,...
May 16, 20184 min read


A Touchy Subject: The Health Benefits of Masturbation
In my Human Sexuality class at the University of Florida, students can choose to complete a Psychology Today-style blog for a class...
Apr 26, 20184 min read


Stop Spectatoring: Mindfulness to Enhance Sexual Pleasure
Stop Spectatoring: Mindfulness to Enhance Sexual Pleasure To put an end to distracting thoughts during sex, immerse yourself in...
Mar 16, 20183 min read


A Letter to Sexually Active Young Women – Some Advice For Your Sexual Pleasure
Let’s close the pleasure gap by discarding our current cultural script for sex. Dear Sexually Active Young Women, First let me introduce...
Feb 22, 20185 min read


Doing Sex Differently – Ditching the Usual Way
Let’s close the pleasure gap by discarding our current cultural script for sex. When I was writing Becoming Cliterate, I loved my first...
Jan 10, 20184 min read


A Call for Orgasm Equality | The Stats Behind Women’s & Men’s Pleasure
A Call for Orgasm Equality – An open letter. Dear People-With-Clits, I have a new book, Becoming Cliterate. I’m passionately committed to...
Dec 8, 20174 min read


The Orgasm Gap: Facts Behind Male vs Female Orgasm & Sexual Solutions
The Orgasm Gap: Discover the statistics behind male vs female orgasm rates and learn sexual solutions. The American Association of...
Nov 23, 20174 min read
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