To the Reader:  You will notice that shorter excerpts from some of these comments appear in the book.

Psychologist Mintz offers solutions for women with flagging sex drives and lackluster love lives in this accessible guide. A onetime sufferer herself, Mintz speaks from a place of experience and professional wisdom, encouraging readers to explore the (admittedly gimmicky) “Five T’s”—thoughts, talk, time, touch and trysts—in an effort to reconnect with their libidos. After covering common causes (stress, life transitions, parenting, etc.), Mintz moves on to the techniques, many of which can be boiled down to increasing self-awareness, easing anxiety over charged thoughts or activities, and communicating with one’s partner; Mintz goes so far as to offer sample scripts for broaching the subject of sex issues. Bolstered with plenty of case studies, readers are bound to identify with at least some of the examples here, learn to disregard the concept of “normal,” and find plenty of worthwhile exercises. Taking her topic seriously (also addressing, early on, more serious concerns such as illness, sexual trauma, and infidelity), Mintz offers deep sympathy and a number of sound options for rekindling burned-out sex lives.

Publisher’s Weekly (September 2009)

The most frequently heard presenting complaint in sex therapist’ offices, from both males and females, is inhibited sexual desire (ISD). And the most common explanation for low sex drive (LSD) is fatigue. I love this book because it is THE ONLY one that honestly deals with the causes of the exhaustion and provides positive suggestions to get back some, if not all, of the zing.

 --Sue Johanson, R.N., C.M.
Talk Sex with Sue on Oxygen and Other Channels

Laurie Mintz's A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex should be required reading for all tired women who want to rekindle their sexual desire -- and all the men who want to support them.  Basing her work in the best available science, Mintz uses her years of experience as a sex therapist and as a woman to give detailed and wise advice.

—Janet Hyde, Ph.D.
Professor of Psychology and Women’s Studies, University of Wisconsin
Past President, Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality
Past President, APA Division for the Psychology of Women
Author of Understanding Human Sexuality

This groundbreaking, definitive book is written for all women (and their partners) who have ever been too tired to have sex, and who struggle with guilt, shame, resentment, and the loss of sexual desire! Using time tested psychological principles, Dr. Mintz provides information and guidance about activities and exercises in a conversational tone that is disclosing, open, honest, humorous, and straightforward.  The result is a gently shaping of attitude and skills that provide opportunity for the path to passion!  Dr. Mintz acknowledges that problems can be complex, and provides additional resources for those circumstances.  Without a doubt, I recommend that all psychotherapists who work with women would benefit from this indispensable resource, and I am recommending it to my psychotherapist study group…and to my friends and relatives! 

—Melba Vasquez, Ph.D., ABPP, Independent Practice, Austin, Texas
Member, American Psychological Association (APA) Board of Directors
Past President, APA Society of Counseling Psychology,
APA Society for the Psychology of Women,
and Texas Psychological Association

Despite the title, A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex is optimistic about enlivening sex for women who may feel that sex is just too much work for not enough return! The author gives a lot of sympathetic advice and even more important, a good pep-talk about the benefits of an active sex life. Mintz respects her reader's situation, but urges her to try some easy to do tips to reawaken her interest and sensuality.  I totally support the author's aim -letting sex go has more than the obvious downside of having less pleasure. It is important for one's health, emotions and last, but certainly not least, keeping a relationship vital and strong. I commend the author on her book--and I hope that the women who need to read this book will take advantage of it's message. It's never too late to wake up, refresh life and reinvorgate our sexuality.

—Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.
Author of Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years
Past President of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality
President of the Centers for Sexualities at San Francisco State University

Dr. Laurie Mintz’s A Tired Woman's Guide to passionate SEX takes the woman by the hand and guides her through specific exercises to enhance her sensual and sexual experiences with her partner.  A good read for all women who are tired and multitasking.

—Beverly Whipple, Ph.D.
Professor Emerita, Rutgers University
Co-author of The Science of Orgasm (2006)
and The Orgasm Answer Guide (2009)